It happened to a friend of a friend of mine.

We’ve all heard different Urban Legends as we where growing up. Scary stories which get told and retold by friends, neighbors and acquaintances which raise the hair on the back of our necks and amuse us with their creepiness. Some of these stories are told as truth, they happened to a “friend of a friend of mine”, you know, John Smith, he lived on Main Street, right? Don’t you remember John? The main thing about some of these sometimes chilling stories is the very fact that they can’t be substantiated. We’ve only heard about the giant crocodile that lives in the sewer beneath our city, but we know of no one who has actually seen it or encountered any evidence of it. Furthermore, Steve in Denver may know about this crocodile in his sewer but sure enough, so does Dave in San Francisco.

These sewer crocodiles franchise don’t you know, cover more territory that way.

With no proof of their validity these scary stories remain just that, stories in which people gasp at, then quickly return to their prior endeavors. The chances that any real danger exists to any one are remote at best so amusement is usually the outcome of such a tale. 

What does this have to do with Feminism and society?
 

Here’s the deal; Whiskey wrote a brilliant post about the current social climate between men and women and makes it obvious that there is little socialization for women to train them to see that the Eric Foreman’s of the world are better long term partners than the Casey Kelso’s. However, this socialization will not happen until it works into a woman’s favor, which is one of the issues facing men today.

The thing is, that the socialization that matriarchs railed into their younger charges weren’t just suggestions, but dire warnings so that they could avoid the very real and serious consequences that faced women in the past. When the working world was made up of men primarily or even earlier than this when agrarian societies where the norm, a woman acting in the present ‘acceptable’ manner would lead to their wholesale failure. Men had the time to situate themselves, learn their trades and make a name for themselves, women had to keep themselves chaste in order to get the best men possible and where constantly reminded that this was the best course of action for their lives.

Being a ‘spinster’ today doesn’t hold the same serious consequences that it did in the past. Women could literally look out their windows and see where the foolish minority of women ended up which reminded them as to why ‘behaving’ was simply a better and much safer life choice. Their mothers could easily point to readily accessable examples to drive their point home; “Do you want to end up like Lady Catskills down the street? Still living with her ma and pa at xx age?” And this example would be up close and personal so the reminder rarely ever left their attention.

What about now? Why do these socializations no longer occur like they once did?

With the advent of Social Services and No Fault Divorce, it’s easy to see that men are no longer required in their previous capacity. Therefore, the attention women put forth toward men are also no longer needed. Feminism ‘freed’ women from these shackles so to speak so finding an ambitious and loyal (read; GOOD) man became a thing of the past.

Now a good man is simply one a woman has until she get’s bored, I mean, Eat Pray Love states that happiness is the most important thing, right….right?

What of the negative consequences? Have these social services taken care of literally EVERYTHING a woman may require of a man in the past? Well…not quite.

Dalrock wrote about this extensively in “Post Marital Spinsterhood” on his blog and related some very sobering statistics on the topic. Turns out there are some very real and very long lasting pitfalls, which can befall women in this day and age. It also seems that marrying younger and finding a ‘good’ man is still very sound advice even now and big D has some stat’s to prove it.

But we know that statistics mean nothing to women by and large, their rationalization hamsters can spin this information in various ways to make themselves feel better and use the special snowflake platform to rationalize that this same fate won’t happen to them.

Feminist propaganda also downplays these issues and places the blame on men so these unfortunate stories are never framed in a way that could be used as cautionary tales to unsuspecting women about the perils of “empowerment” and the associated consequences.

Due to their rarity, they can be seen as urban legends, negative outcomes which always seem to happen to ‘a friend of a friend’ or an unfortunate circumstance which you read about online or in the news but nothing which happens often enough to warrant any changes in a woman’s attitude or lifestyle.

FYI Ladies, the marriage rate is decreasing due to men looking around and seeing an increasing amount of unhappy husbands IN REAL LIFE, they are realizing that being a satisfied husband is fast becoming folklore.

So the warnings of the few sensible women, which are left, usually falls on deaf ears, dismissed as outliers, which happen rarely and couldn’t possibly happen to them. Women have little reason to ever consider the real unfortunate risks which are very valid possibilities in their lives depending on their choices.

This is precisely the reason why men’s direct warnings are also useless, women look at the here and now and can’t see the issues on the horizon. Womyn’s media also preempts a man’s attempts at aid, making it seem like his very real concern is simply a ploy to keep a woman ‘barefoot and pregnant’, chained to the patriarchy.

So long as the government can subsidize a woman’s well being essentially, there aren’t any issues on a woman’s horizon to make out. Economic collapse as per TFH’s Misandry Bubble is apparently the only thing, which will wake women up from this trance.

Women won’t be convinced of their apparent fallibility until what used to happen to a “friend of a friend” or something they read about online once in a while then turns into something that happened to a person or people they know intimately and fairly regularly. To see and feel the negative issues facing this friend as she faces single motherhood with a dearth of ‘good’ men for support and drying up social assistance (as thugs may be seen as exciting but useless during these ‘rough’ times) will make this possible outcome very real and something women will learn to avoid out of necessity.
 
In the meantime, sadly, warnings won’t be heeded. Effort and logic will fall on deaf ears and insults will be one’s compensation in attempts for society to see reason. Common sense will simply be seen as an Urban Legend, which has no basis in reality despite real world evidence that these negative consequences are actually on the rise. It seems that many are dead set on holding that apple in the vase until the hunter snags and captures them, even though letting go would grant them the sweet escape they don’t realize is available.

Omnipitron.

Crazy Omni sells SEX by the TRUCKLOAD….I’M CRAZY?!?!?!?! GET YOUR SEX HERE!!!!!

Interesting article, I had commented on the Spearhead about this and I’ll repeat it here, I didn’t think we’d hear reports of this situation quite so soon. I had actually predicted this situation about 6 months ago (I went by AMAX back then), once again as a comment I had made on the Spearhead and when you understand the basic concepts behind men and women in the sexual marketplace, it’s not hard to see why this is happening.

Once more, it also shows why Hanna Rosin has her head up her @$$ in regards to urging men to “drink the purple Kool Aid”. Sorry Hanna, men have already been drinking the purple Kool Aid for decades, this is what made civilization possible. It’s just that now men are beginning to stop, more and more are seeing the truth about women. That’s a choice we men have available to us, we can ‘opt out’ of society, we have that option.

See, Hanna Rosin and so many others in present day society, are suffering from solipsism. They believe that men and women have the exact same desires when they seek marriage and family. They believe that men, just like women, greatly want to get married and have kids.

This seems to be the basis for why Hanna stomps around doing her victory dance at the current plight of men, because she believes that men will have no other choice but to submit to ‘female superiority’ (cough) since the only other recourse would be financial devastation.

Sadly, (for her and her ilk) she is wrong, horrifically wrong and this article proves it in spades.

You see, men just like women, do posses an inclination to settle down with a partner and have kids, but unlike women, it isn’t an intense drive to do so. In reality many men have one primal need; SEX, and this is what our hairier ancestors traded for with women in the past. The men traded their resources for access to a woman’s body.

Pretty cut and dry, right? However, this information somewhat changes the game a bit now doesn’t it? The things that men and women value as important now affects their view and their choices in life wouldn’t you say?

Consider even the social labels men and women place on each other in terms of what it is that either gender finds important. A woman who can’t achieve marriage is labeled a spinster, but is there a well-known negative label for men who don’t ‘achieve’ marriage? If a man states that he never wanted to marry, how many are inclined to believe him? What happens if a woman where to say the same thing?

Isn’t a man labeled a loser, NOT for failing to get married, but failing to have regular sex? Isn’t that more the barometer in which men rate themselves and each other for the most part?
We’ve heard of the negative term ‘Crazy Cat Lady’ well, is there such a thing as a ‘Crazy Cat or Dog Man?’

It all comes down to each gender’s biological imperatives, men want sex for the most part, women want resources and for obvious reasons. The issue is that a man’s Biological Imperative is much easier to meet that a woman’s. However, due to the great need that men had for his BI, women where able to leverage sex in return for men’s resources. In the end, it’s a lopsided trade, but we men like sex enough to seal the deal. However, since the advent of Feminism, things have changed drastically.

You see, chastity, which feminism killed off, was actually one of the biggest assets in a woman’s arsenal. Not just a few women either, when the vast majority of women practiced chastity, it therefore put sex at a premium and actually gave women much more bargaining power in terms of achieving their goal; marriage and children.

There was a documentary I watched once in regards to the Beach Party Movies and Annette Funicello stated that ‘Annette was firm with Frankie in the movies. No ring, no nookie.’ That was a staple of the times, ‘Annette’, wasn’t the only woman to put her foot down to her beau at the time. Marriage was a man’s price of admission for sex you see, and many men where willing to pay it, obviously. There where also social pressures which where applied to men in society and in religion for men to “grow up”, mature, marry and have a family as well, that can’t be discounted in it’s effects on maturing males in our pasts.

When women followed this advice and remained chaste en masse, it also created a monopoly if you will. While not only keeping said woman viable (as men wouldn’t want a loose woman) it also made sure that men had no alternative BUT to get married if they wanted sex. Where else could men go to get that itch scratched right?

So with this goal in mind and social pressure to grow up, men had plenty of good reasons to be upstanding citizens and contribute to society. The better educated and higher their earning potential, the prettier the girl they could possibly get and therefore (it is surmised) the more satisfying the roguring would be.

How about now, what has happened in light of feminism? Well, what these women are experiencing is simply the realization of differing biological imperatives as they compete for dominance. Marriage is a very steep proposition for a man, it always has been in reality, but with sex being the price for admission, it all seemed worth it in the end. Now that men can get sex for free, why pay that extra fee? Why would a man now pay that steep price of marriage when HIS needs are being taken care of now? What precisely in marriage in addition to sex benefits men now? Besides the veritable minefield it has become which poses distinct and real dangers in Marriage 2.0, marriage and commitment to a woman doesn’t give a man any real benefit making it worth his while.

See what I’m getting at?

Even if a woman decides that she is fed up and gives an ultimatum, what sort of leverage does she have now? The woman in the article left her boyfriend since he wouldn’t commit, but the reality is that he WILL be able to replace her, it’s only a matter of time. The evidence is there, she LEFT him, she didn’t marry him, what does that say about the power dynamic between the two?

Take this quote from the article;

“…because men will work for sex.”

And this is very true, however…consider this; because chastity is seen as such a patriarchal and controlling fixation and now since sex is given away at such a low premium, where is a man’s requirement to amount to anything significant? What does a man lose if he decides that Call Of Duty part 14 is worth more than pleasing his girlfriend? What work does a man HAVE to do now?

In this market…he doesn’t lose much, nor does he have to do much, sorry ladies, but hey, Feminism has given you so much right??? Right???

Thanks to Feminism, women have lost the biggest piece of leverage they had on men and it could take a combined effort of pretty much all women to keep their legs closed in order to get this leverage back. Women, in all absolute honesty, haven’t the foggiest of how screwed they really are in terms of the fallout from feminism. By not giving a sh!t about the plight of men while making marriage an intolerably dangerous and miserable proposition for men (while it’s still a very vaulted state for women, c’mon, how many magazines are printed for marriage for men? GROW UP!!)  while giving sex away for free, they have shot themselves in the foot in one of the worst ways imaginable. Moreover, as the economy continues its slide, it will ONLY get worse.

Supply and Demand, it can really blow sometimes.

Omnipitron
 

The older I get, the smarter my parents become…heh..heh…heh

Just had a great talk with my parents. My Mom is doing great and it’s awesome to speak to her again. After I was done, I spoke to my Dad. I will be talking to him on Friday so he can give my some renovation advice (which I can use fo sho) and possibly come over and give me a little what for!! Heck, do you have any idea of how stoked I am to show my Dad how many tools I now have?? I’m actually looking forward to renovating my basement with my Dad’s help, and even cooking dinner for him when I’m done. Heck, I can’t wait to show him all the tools I have in my basement workshop, if you can call it that. We’re going to send it HARD, man I wish I had listened to him when I was younger!!!!

I’ll tell you now, in terms of eating crow, you will either do it when you are young, or you will do it later, but either way, you will do it. Your parents are right, and you, sorry, you…is…wrong!!! My older sister, my younger brother and I all at the same time told my parents that they where right the whole time about 9 years ago, and my parents where gracious enough at the time NOT to turn the knife in the wound. 

My father, the man who after all of these years I realized that he had done a lot more for me than I had actually figured. Well, during my amazing talk with my Dad, he retold a story which I never forgot. I can still remember when he had told me this story the very frist time when I was only 7 or so. An old Jamaican tale which has become a mainstay in Omnipitron’s psyche. Sans Patoi of course.

“There was an echo in the woods which knew all and a smart alack kid wanted to outsmart the all-knowing echo, he caught a live bird and then approached the woods.

‘All knowing echo, what do I have in my hands?’ He said as he held the bird behind his back.

‘Why young man, you have a bird in your hand.’ The all knowing echo answered.

The Young man smiled.

‘Tell me, is the bird alive or dead?’ he answered smugly.

The plan was in motion; if the echo said ‘alive’ he would crush the bird in his hand, killing it. If the echo said ‘dead’ he would relax his grip and let the bird go free and fly away. So his smile got even larger as he awaited the echo’s answer.

‘It all depends on you!!’ The echo answered.

The young man was stymied!!”

The moral which my father had bestowed upon me; whether people like it or not, is that WE are responsible for our own lives and our own outcomes. I told my father that even though I listened to him telling this story for the millionth time in my life, I loved listening to him tell that story. It’s even more true now than when it was when he had first told me. How many men can say that they had a father like that in their lives when it mattered?

It made me who I am. I wonder how many boys can say that now. Do yourself a favour for the men who had a great father in their lives, give him a huge bear hug when you see him next, yeah?

Omnipitron

Drunken Cougar VENGENCE!!!

Been on the Manosphere for a while now and I totally understand the whole concept of women seeking attention and getting miffed when their fee-fees get stepped on by us Neanderthal type guys. Tonight at the bar job was no exception.

Sigh.

Okay then, slow night at the bar and I was just at a table by our front door watching the boob tube when this tipsy older woman sidles up beside me.

“Have you seen my friends?” she slurs.

Lady, I don’t know who the hell you even are much less your friends, however, customer service, I can’t say that.

“No, I’m afraid I don’t know who your friends are.” I reply.

She points a shaky finger just past me to my left and I look to see a rather tall older gentleman talking to someone.

“There he is.”

I nod my head and keep her in mind, she may have to get ejected in due course as her consumption is making her very ‘friendly’ to people she doesn’t even know. I leave poste haste as I don’t want to be anywhere near this woman. The night continues and we are now 15 minutes away from last call (1:45am) and I make my way to our dishpit area to drop off some empty bottles I was carrying. I find this woman once more and she is talking to three of her friends just by the entrance. I politely excuse myself as they are blocking the way somewhat and this woman starts elbowing me repeatedly.

WTF?

Now I don’t take my ADHD meds on weekends, to give myself some time off so to speak but I’m really not as sharp as normal and my patience also seems to be a little shorter as well. I give this woman a very stern look and excuse myself once more, this time a little more harsh than before. Now this woman seems to be softly kicking me for some reason as I try to pass by.

Man, this sh!t NEVER happens to me, why now?

I work my way past the foursome and drop off the empty bottles I was carrying and excuse myself yet again (this time nicer) as I exit. This woman now tries to grab me as I go by.

Seriously…no wait….SERIOUSLY??

I evade her actions with a very disgusted expression on my face and make my way back to the bar. I shake my head at what has just transpired when one of our waitresses gets my attention.

“Psst, Omni, that woman is telling on you!” she says just over the music.

I look to my left and see that this woman had followed me and was now talking to one of the bar owners who had been counting tills behind the bar. She was actually right beside me and I didn’t even notice.

You’ve got to be freakin’ kidding me!!!

I leave for the moment, figuring that I may get a tongue lashing from the owner a little later but I know that I didn’t do anything wrong, and more importantly, I didn’t want to blow up at the whole situation. The waitress, AC,  is a very sweet girl, she will do whatever she can for anyone and I’m glad she was there tonight. She hung back to hear what this woman was telling the owner and then found me to fill me in.

“She just told the owner that you had been bothering her and her friends repeatedly about being in the way and you had been rude a few minutes ago.” AC says.

I thank her and shook my head. Whatever, I’ll relate my side of the story and whatever will be will be. I’ve been at that bar for a long time and everyone knows that I’m not a sh!t-disturber. As the night rolled on, what I had figured would happen was right, the owner didn’t even bring it up with me, figuring that this woman was simply drunk and wanted to make trouble for me and wasn’t anything to be concerned about. However, there was something, which caught my eye later in the night. This same ‘friendly’ woman was now heavily making out with a random black dude very close to where our physical confrontation had initially started. What the hell was all of this about then?

At the end of the night with the music off and the bar empty, some of the bouncers asked me what the heck went down. As I related my tale of woe, WL (who is back with his wife and they are working on things, just had to give you guys a quick update on that) mentioned that this same woman had put her arm around him earlier in the night. He wanted nothing to do with her either and did what he could to escape.

Do I know what she was after? Maybe she was looking for some attention, maybe she was looking for some fun, maybe I had p!ssed her off after I rejected her, either way I thought it was interesting that after I had rejected her she tried to get me into some sh!t with some artistic license on our fleeting interactions. Don’t worry Hun, we’ll always have Paris.

Women, gotta love em…or maybe not.

Omnipitron

You’re a woman hater!!!

So, it looks like I’m a misogynist now. My views on women have changed over the past few years and have been cemented since I began reading manosphere blogs regularly. I wasn’t always, at one point in time I simply believed that there where issues between women and men, and that if we just sat and hashed them out we could reach a consensus, possibly a mutually beneficial solution.

I wish that where true.

Here’s the sitch; as I have mentioned before on this blog, I have pretty serious ADHD (not the type which many women label their ‘hyper active’ boys either. I didn’t get diagnosed until 2007 and have been medicated by my own choice ever since.) and one of the many ways professionals have suggested to deal with the world is to look past convention and individual instructions and see the principles behind them, the concepts if you will. Since there are so many approaches in life one can choose to take to reach a certain outcome, a person with ADHD could get easily confused, by looking simply at the concepts, extraneous information can be omitted simplifying the world and how we can interact with it.

Interestingly enough, this is thankfully something I had been doing for a while so I try to look at the base concepts behind as many things as I can and this is what I believe about women. This new belief however, does have even me shaking my head sometimes. I post regularly on the Spearhead, and my diatribes can be very caustic toward women often. After so many years of viewing women as equals and considering them simply misunderstood, sometimes reading what I write or even typing what I believe has me stunned.

The patterns I see in regards to women are disturbing, but true nonetheless and sometimes I think that when I trot out my long comments (and usually they are very long) or even read the ones, which others compose, maybe we take these thoughts for granted. Maybe it’s just anger some people may assume, or consider it simply the frustration men are going through that’s talking, rage made into prose on the electric page powered by the internet.

The scary thing (for me anyway) is that at this juncture in my life, this is not just some crap to get upvotes on the Spearhead, or a method by which to ingratiate myself in with the Spearhead regulars. No, that would be easier to deal with for myself anyway. The truth is that after looking at the patterns repeatedly of women, not just in articles on the Spearhead, but after talking with many online and in real life it becomes crystal clear as to why our predecessors didn’t include them in arenas with high responsibility and significant consequences to their choices and men where trained to be the leaders in their houses and in society.

At their core;

Women will always choose the best course of action, which seems appropriate for them, and damn the rest

Women have very bad understanding of cause and effect

Women have little self-control and without significant social and financial consequences, they will destroy themselves and everything around them

Women are more emotionally driven, and satisfying them is an impossibility if left to their own devices

These aren’t just simply words I put up to say “Hey Manosphere, I’m one of you.” Sadly no, this is something that I have seen many times in the past and even now and realize, sadly I realize, that this is undoubtedly TRUE!!!

The final nail in the coffin for me was the Spearhead article, which stated the president of NOW was calling for a halt to the cutbacks in women’s social services, but increases to them, no matter if it bankrupts the economy in the process. I’m no accountant, but even I know that without the continued endeavors of men so they can provide the additional capital to be taxed, this is an impossibility!! However, it was also NOW who was part of the group who influenced Obama to re-divert some stimulus money from infrastructure to more women-centered professions.

There we have it, the metaphor of wanting toasted ice as has been seen before on the Manosphere. They want the jobs over men, but also want the support men’s jobs give them in regards to social services. This is why women aren’t cut out for leadership roles in the aggregate, short term thinking with little to no understanding of cause and effect is obviously dangerous and that is how women operate.

The biggest thing that men have to learn is that the idea of ‘talking’ to women so that they can understand men’s current plight is a lesson in futility. Women care only about how any situation or issue affects them and anything else is simply extraneous.  Women will only do something for anyone else so long as it benefits them so this is why trying to convince women about the evils of feminism is like asking Superman to give up his powers. What’s in it for a woman to curtail feminism if they are benefiting from its disenfranchisement of men? The first time I ‘spoke’ to some womyn about this issue was on another blog years ago and it of course went about as well as any convo about feminism ever does, at least there was no shaming language.

However, I took stock of the situation, of the three women that I spoke to, one was married, the other divorced or possibly never married with a child, and the other was single but still young enough to find someone. The first two (who where the most vocal during the convo) already had everything they pretty much wanted, why would they have any issue with the current paradigm in society? Sure it disenfranchises men, but they’re safe so does it really matter? They didn’t come right out and say it, but by their responses this conclusion was easy to reach.

With my own dealings in real life on top of this the uncomfortable realization was undeniable, and I realized that women will not ally with men to end feminism’s reign, ever. The only time this will ever come to pass won’t even be when feminism no longer works for women anymore, it will be when being a supporter of feminism will be a very strong detriment to their well being. Anyone who has any understanding of cause and effect and has read The Misandry Bubble realizes that this means MRA numbers will only swell with ‘honest’ female membership when social collapse is ubiquitous.

Nice.

At first I had suggested only listening to women who had shown themselves to be on par with men, treating any other woman like the overgrown child she was. However, it’s more than that now, (here we go, can’t even believe I’m writing this.) there is no reason to even speak to most women about MRA issues in reality. More often then not, you are simply wasting your time. The Hawaiian Libertarian posted a very good article on the Spearhead in regards to the Thinking Housewife, IMO, asking her to change her ludicrous position on men not marrying is like pushing a rope uphill.

She’s a woman, she is married and has everything she wants, however, she is indeed a thinking housewife and recognizes that men not marrying will have a very negative impact on society and civilization. That being said, she, like women in the aggregate, doesn’t wish to curtail any of the advantages, which she and women like her benefit from even if these same advantages are dangerous to men. Therefore, she offers men that honor is still a worthy reimbursement for losing your shirt in this world, which cannot be taken away from you.

Pretty easy thing to say when you will never be in a position to take that sort of risk.

Some on the Spearhead say she is evil, she’s not, (here we go, uh-oh) she is simply a woman and doing what it is that women do best. Take care of their own interests; even if it means undermining those same interests long term. No, there is no reason to write to TTH, or any other woman who isn’t a chinstrap for that matter about these issues, you may have a much better time with the mangina’s in their charge. As men, we tend not to be swayed too easily by our emotions and can comprehend cause and effect, but possibly the mangina’s need to be appreciated by women in charge stymies this aspect.

So here I am, part of a veritable woman-haters club. Do I hate women, absolutely not; I’m a married man for crying out loud. However, when I describe the issues facing men with my wife, at the very least she can see some of the issues with feminism, which is unlike what most NAW can even try to do. I do value women, we can’t have civilization without them, and their contributions to society are every bit as valuable as that of men. I honestly have no issue with women in politics, medicine, academics, or even law, but I would prefer that they get to these vaunted positions due to the merits of their own hard work and not due to some program which places them there just due to their gender.

I would also like to see that any woman who couldn’t measure up have to suffer the consequences for it, just like us men have to, and just like us men EXPECT to in the event that we don’t fit in. Above all else, I can now see why in the bible it says that men need to be the head of the house, because only men seem to have the critical thinking capabilities to make the hard decisions in life and increase the odds of navigating a family around the various issues life has to offer.

So I guess I’m a woman hater, and I ain’t going back.

Omnipitron

Where you listening to me…or where you looking at the woman in the red dress?

“The Matrix is a system….that system is our enemy….”

Just read this thread on The Spearhead and Novaseeker (damn shame this extremely smart gentleman no longer blogs) made a post, which really had my head spinning. While his whole post is definitely worth a read, matter of fact, anything he posts is worth a read this one segment caught my attention;

“You also cannot overestimate the degree to which feminist programming has penetrated the minds of virtually all women — virtually all women, that’s right. Not all, but virtually all. Virtually all women — including Christian women, including Catholic women, including so-called “traditional, conservative Christian/Catholic women” and so on. Not *all* women, mind you — there are needles in haystacks out there that are much more common than unicorns, but still quite uncommon and downright rare in major urban centers or above a certain educational level.”

One thing popped into my mind as I read this passage.

When Morpheus asks Neo if he was paying attention or looking at the woman in the red dress, we all know what happened next. Neo looks back and it turns out that the woman in the red dress is very apt at cross-dressing and the handling of small firearms, what a handy skill to learn in university wouldn’t you agree?

Gotta love those Women’s Studies Courses, much more deadly than home economics.

“You have to understand…most of these people are not ready to be unplugged.”

At any rate, what was it that Morpheus stated? That these ‘Agents’ can move back and forth through any ‘software’ still hooked up to the matrix, so they are anyone…and no one. This is the issue than men face today. I’m a married man, I love my wife and yes, I’m glad that I got married, however, knowing the myriad of risks than men have to expose themselves to today, how can I encourage a man to marry? While things are decent for me, will they be decent for anyone I persuade to walk down the aisle? So alright, my wife may not turn on me wearing a black suit, dark sunglasses and moves which would make Jet Li envious, but what about my co-workers and friends?

“…and many of them are so hopelessly dependent on the system, they will fight to protect it.”

The honest answer is that a man risks far too much during marriage in this day and age and the truth is…we can’t identify with any sort of ‘safe’ accuracy who is ‘harmless’ and who is not. Which woman is still hooked up to the matrix and who isn’t? Who could turn into an agent and put a bullet between your eyes and who won’t. The issue; it isn’t just your initial dating process which will save your hide, but that is very important too. No, it’s the whole system, the matrix if you will, which will support a woman’s meandering ways whatever they may be which is the real issue and therefore the real hazard a man has to consider when taking such a dangerous gamble.

“Inside the matrix…they are everyone…and they are no one…”

Can this woman withstand all the ‘whispers’ that she will be fed from friends and the media? Will she be able to withstand all the indoctrination about how she should follow her heart’s desire, no matter the cost? Will she be able to see through the propaganda about how marriage should never be actual work, to understand that it is very much a labor of love? Marriages ebb and flow over time, it isn’t an eternal date, but the media very much states that it should be, can she comprehend this very true fact and not succumb to romantic fallacy?

Even if she is a solid woman and time rolls on in perfect fashion, you simply cannot control the friends, which flit in and out of your beloved’s life. I had read a very sad story about a man who was living a very solid life with his wife until she met a new group of friends who very much believed in Eat Pray Love, even though the movie hadn’t been released yet. He had stated on a forum that most of this new group of friends had either left their hubbies for a new love or where currently cheating at the moment.

You simply cannot control that, no matter how much men may think then can.

The sword of Damocles is very much hanging over the head of any and every man who decides to get married and one day, there is the very real possibility that they could wake up and have this pleasant image looking back at them one innocuous day.

No my friends, while I am very much pro-marriage and pleased with the results it has brought into my own life, the risks are very high for any man willing to take the plunge. I simply cannot endorse marriage in its current form to any unhitched man in this day and age. The sentence they may have to suffer could be devastating and very long lasting over the course of their lives. We simply cannot know who is hooked up to the matrix and who is not and the reality is that most women simply are, and they like it this way. In all honesty, they have no reason to change; the benefits to them are simply too great no matter how much it disenfranchises men. The best anyone can honestly say is to proceed with caution, what was it that Morpheus said about agents?

“They are the gatekeepers, they are guarding all the doors and they are holding all the keys which means that sooner or later, someone is going to have to fight them.”

Too bad we don’t know who they are until it’s too late.

Wow, so many applicable Matrix analogies, what can I say?

Omnipitron

Cognitive Dissonance; Thy Name Is Woman…

Still working on the next part of “They Want To Be Men; Part II” but something came up just recently.

Allow me to share a story with you all.

When I was in high school, I can remember a dude seemed to make a huge social jump through the hierarchy, but then fell right back down to social obscurity rather quickly. I had wondered about the quick and dramatic turnaround and asked the females in our group. Even at that young age I realized that the social scene was a female’s playground and they didn’t disappoint.

You see, this dude was lower tier, but had the fortune of being the object of a much more popular girl’s affection. She approached him, they became a couple, and he was ingratiated into her social circle as a result. He was ‘popular by association” similar to movies like “Can’t Buy Me Love” and “Love Don’t Cost a Thing.”

However, there was a distinct difference. You see, he wasn’t really the type who blended well with the in-crowd, but that wouldn’t have been an issue as they put up with him because of his girlfriend. So long as he was with her, he had it made, but, now he was of ‘higher status’ he was being approached by more women and he started to believe the hype. He broke up with his popular girlfriend, and they went their separate ways, unfortunately for him, she took his popularity with her.

No more exclusive parties, no more hotties giving him the eye, and no chance of getting back into that scene…OUCH.

This somewhat reminds me of the situation women find themselves in now. Why Hanna Rosin brays on and on about ‘The End Of Men.’ She is making the same mistake that this poor dude made years back. Thinking that the current state of affairs is inherent to them, and not because of other external factors, which is beyond their direct control. When you argue with women in terms of the oncoming collapse, they of course postulate that they will be just fine, and things aren’t like they used to be in the past. They of course haven’t the foggiest idea that the current situation, and their present level of comfort is made possible directly by the collective works of the men who marry and then work to maintain their families.

The cognitive dissonance is astounding.

Recently; I had gotten into it with a state of the art womyn on the Spearhead. I don’t like arguing online, as in quite a lot of cases it’s pointless. Just like it says in the bible (and I’m not a Christian but the good book tends to make sense sometimes) that you become just like a fool if you argue with them. It was amazing to have a woman tell me what the situation is with contemporary men (because us older men haven’t the foggiest) and even better, she had told me what the situation is with black people in North America.

I mean, who better to teach me about the social changes which transpires in the African American community than a non-black woman, right? I mean, all the experiences that myself, and my family are obviously inconsequential and have no bearing on the reality on the ground.

Ahem.

By the way, when you get your car fixed next time, don’t bother with the mechanic who went to school for years and then apprenticed for years more since he obviously hasn’t the first clue about cars, naw, just ask the garbage man, or your accountant, or even better your Dr. cause I mean, what does a mechanic know anyway?

Sometimes it’s funny when women who say they mean well and want to get to the bottom of this seemingly strange ‘prejudice’ against men and these bizarre occurrences where men are treated poorly don’t seem to be able to wrap their minds around the truth when men retell their stories of woe. I won’t lie; this got me pretty riled up when a regular Spearhead poster, a Peter Andrew Nolan retold the story of his life, which is harrowing to say the least. How that man survived it is beyond me and is a testament to his intestinal fortitude.

Do you think this self-admitting ‘Gender Equalist’ even listened to him? Sadly no, instead blathering on about an issue, which transpired in the thread, was actually painful to women and should be recognized as such.

Sigh.

It’s very difficult to have sympathy for a woman who has undergone something like being maligned in public (somewhat as names where withheld) when they have no sympathy or compassion for a man whose lost his family, house, and his whole previous life. Moreover, as an intelligent poster aptly named Opus and I had a discussion in regards to the Misandry Bubble, this Gender Equalist repeatedly popped up, attempting to state that during a collapse, that woman would be okay, in fact, even competing with men for the scarce jobs which would be available during such a time.

Can anyone say Cognitive Dissonance?

Would I call this woman a b!tch? Naw, she is simply one of many Western Woman who have bought the feminist entitlement paradigm hook, line, and sinker. It’s simply best to follow Zed’s advice and ignore such women, which can be hard as there are quite a bit of them. The only thing that I find so interesting about this situation is that if more women could indeed see the writing on the wall for what it was, they could perhaps avert a disaster, which will be hard on men, but more so on women. However, how can one recognize the readily accessible signs when men can tell you what the issues are with them directly, and you still don’t comprehend?

Well, it isn’t like we didn’t warn em?

Omnipitron

Choice and Control; They Want to be Men revisited.

Happy New Year everyone, I hope everyone’s holiday was good and was spent rejuvenating sufficiently from a very hard year. Ah, time off is what we all work for, no? At any rate, on to brass tacks. 

During this family break I was mulling over some aspects in regards to the dynamic between men and women in society. See, as I have already stated, I have ADHD, and to assist in making my life easier, I have learned that looking at the concepts or principles in life tends to simplify things to a great extent. While the exact actions we may take could change fairly quickly depending on the times people live in, the principles behind why people do them changes much slower in comparison. While I was mulling over the second part of my “They Want To Be Men” post that something hit me like a freight train.

Feminism is all about Choice; in reality, the LACK of choice women have in regards to their interactions with men and therefore, the control they do not have in these same interactions. In all honesty, I’m not being mean or pointing fingers,  when you look at the truth, it’s as clear as day.

As I have stated in my previous post in regards to women wanting to be men, us guys haven’t the foggiest clue as how our lives differ significantly from women and the issues they may face even on a daily basis. It’s due to the amount of control men have in their lives and therefore the choices this control affords us that women chafe at so harshly, as they do not have any reciprocal control and therefore choice in their own lives when dealing with us. This isn’t the fault of men or women, this is simply the way that things have played out, to be honest.

Consider the first post in this series as an example; a man has direct control over the aspects of himself which women find attractive. Confidence, knowledge, and skills in resource gathering, a man can exert his direct influence in altering his level of prowess in these areas if the need arises. Even if he was a scrub for the first many years of his life, he has the time to turn things around and get on the ‘right track’ if he so chooses. A woman on the other hand has all her eggs in the fertility basket, which is dependant NOT on what she herself does, but on the die roll of her parents. You see, just as Athol Kay  has stated (DAMNED GOOD BLOG BTW), a woman’s SMV is to some degree fluid and can be manipulated in the short term with some sexual behavior adjustments (opening up the bedroom door in an LTR much more than before) or with some well-applied makeup. Yes, men have no short-term adjustments which we can effect to bolster up our SMV or sex rank, but there is something else we have. Over the long term, men clean up, women, not so much.

Women, have only indirect control over the main asset we men look at (appearance/fertility) and essentially, her best bet is to do her best to hang onto to her declining appearance as she ages as she cannot stop the process outright. This of course is depending that she was blessed with above average genetics in the first place, of course that is completely out of her hands right from the get go.

See what I mean?

Since men can directly affect the aspects, which attract women, they in turn have more choices than women do. A man can squander his youth in all sorts of fruitless quests and choose to turn things around and become a pillar of society later in life, so long as he doesn’t choose to do so at retirement age. This same choice usually isn’t available to women unfortunately, and this does indeed have them seeing red. Women therefore have to defer to men, dressing and acting in ways, which will please them and qualify them for marriage. Sure women are the ones who make the choices in terms of who they chose to marry, but they have a boatload of work they must do beforehand, including being told repeatedly by the matriarchs in the family how types like Casey Kelso (an Alpha no doubt) are VEDDY, VEDDY BAYED and types like Eric Foreman (BETA!!) are VEDDY, VEDDY GOOD. 


The wife likes “That 70’s Show”…blame her.

Consider it, a man is simply told to learn a trade and ‘eventually’ marry, for a woman it’s a case of life or death when remembering the past. a man is judged on his accomplishments, a woman is judged on what type of man she is able to land. Bit of a difference isn’t there between the genders? In the past, her choice on who a woman married could mean a life of hardship or death, or a life of relative comfort. 


I will expand upon this in time, stay tuned…..

Why

Why this blog, why do I maintain it…why does anyone care?

I remember when the Troll King commented on my blog and gave me an encouraging word when I was just starting out. Thank you TK, your words mean the world to me. And many thanks to the Hawaiian Libertarian for adding me to his blogroll as well, thanks for giving me a chance, I appreciate it. I didn’t know why I was even starting a blog when there where so many already out there.

Now I do.

Why…because I was a meager Mangina who was schlubbing through this world looking for the key information to please women and came away with an ammo box full of blanks. The wrong information I can assure you but it didn’t matter, I continued trying anyway. Now, at 35 years old, I realize that I was asleep at the wheel during a critical phase of my life…but I’m still on the road driving.

As I read the Spearhead and other MRA sites, I begin to realize one very important thing; that even though I had my eyes closed, things could have been a whole world worse for me and I didn’t even comprehend what was even at stake. How did I navigate through this minefield like I had? Some would say that I’m still in the thick of things, and others would say that I’m raising children, which aren’t mine. Correct on both counts of course, and sure there is still time on the clock before things could go south, but even at this ‘young’ stage I’m at, I already have friends who haven’t been married as long who have seen their lives crash and burn in front of them or even have partners who are as willing as mine has been. Due to this ‘progressive’ society and female entitlement, their lives have turned out for the worst and they didn’t have any warning as they still lived in the past as far as their expectations where concerned.

Why am I writing this blog? Because I gambled and I came out with my head, others weren’t so lucky and I want to help all the young people out there just like me who do wish to get married, but have their heads filled with tripe in terms of how the world actually works. I personally believe that if you save even one person, then you save their whole world, cliché but this is what I believe. One person can indeed affect many people’s lives, I have learned this the hard way and I hope others don’t have to do the same.

I believe in marriage as an institution, but I also believe that nowadays, men should indeed avoid marriage or use adequate (and I mean heavy duty) due diligence in finding a worthy woman. I believe that when you marry and have kids that they are your prime responsibility. I’m using my own bias in this determination as I have had experience with young children before and adolescent lives are indeed are very heavy task to take care of. What’s the difference between a young woman on the right track and a teenaged mother? I can tell you through experience, not very much without the proper guidance.

I believe that young men are the backbone of this society and that there is a lack of good male role models in which to teach them right from wrong. Don’t ask me how I know this but male role models are essential to a young man growing up healthy and happy. Watch your child who is scared about their upcoming performance in a school play and then pay attention as they look into your eyes and then they calm down. I’m not joking when I say that!!

I believe that even though I’m not a Christian, that men should be the head of their households as they are born to lead, women are born to follow. Men are blessed with their pragmatic and logical natures and not swayed as easily by emotion as women tend to be. We men don’t recognize just how selfless we are in normal life as the media paints a very good picture of how horrible, useless, and tyrannical we are. I’ve begun to take the lead of my own household, funny how things are working better now that I have done so, and I’m just getting started.

I believe that there is a collapse of epic proportions coming and that men need to take advantage of this opportunity to teach our young men coming behind us about what it means to actually be a man as the current circumstances binds our hands. Speaking about the elites at this time can be dangerous, especially if you already have a family, but in time, we may be able to seize the moment and lead young men into becoming the leaders they where meant to be.

What I wish to do with this blog is assist the hopeless betas out there who where just like me, aimless yet wanting to share their lives with a worthy woman. As a man who wishes to get married, there are indeed rights we have, but as a betas, we don’t think we have any say in the matter much less any reason to even ask in the first place.

WRONG.

My aim now is to illuminate as much as I can in terms of how the world works to any young men who will listen. I will show my stepson what I know, but the main part there is how I treat his mother and how I take the lead. There are too many good men out there that haven’t the foggiest clue as to what the world will take from them and they are unwittingly lying down on train tracks as it comes to run them over and they haven’t the foggiest clue what is at stake.

No one taught me, but I’m unscathed for reasons I cannot relate here, what about the rest? Someone has to look out for them, as they haven’t a clue what is after them!!!

Omnipitron

What Jeff told me about Radiation

Just read this on Grerp’s site and it really had my head turning. I had always known that divorce was hard on kids and family, but it had never been put in a way like this to me before. It had me thinking about my own past in terms of my childhood, my marriage and a philosophy that my old supervisor in my fulltime job had unknowingly instilled in me.

Eleven years ago my supervisor, Jeff, was telling me about radiation and how something so misunderstood could be used to benefit people. When I asked him about why they where using radiation in Thyroid Therapies he had told me about the risks vs. rewards in this case. Sure, dumping a large amount of Iodine-131 into a person’s body isn’t the sanest thing in the world, but when someone has Thyroid Cancer, the Iodine risk is deemed worth it to eliminate it. It’s a lesser of two evils sort of thing and I never forgot that advice. It made me consider the risks and rewards of various situations, which are available in this life, which must be, weighted as the circumstances merits it.

What does all of this have to do with Grerp and the 4^th turning, just this, that at an earlier time in my life, I was looking to make the big leap to end my marriage as well.

I don’t like discussing the particulars, as my wife isn’t online to defend herself from anything I may say. Let’s just say that after 5 years together and one more being married; she was happier than a pig in poo while I was miserable and even my wife would agree with this statement. In 2008, we had just finished counseling which was informative to say the least and did give some hope as we went forward, but I still had my misgivings. I was deathly afraid that the issues which I had with our marriage wouldn’t be addressed and I would always get the short end of the stick for the remainder of my life.  It seemed my wife and her kids would benefit from my remaining in this situation but apparently at my expense. I even posted my situation on a message board I used to partake in so I could get fresh eyes on my situation, I was afraid that my perception would be marred by my personal bias and a choice this serious needed to be done in the most sober mindset possible.

So why didn’t I leave, why did I stay and tough it out?

Well, one very large reason was that I wasn’t sure I would be able to find a ‘better deal’ out there. I had read many a story of men and women ‘trading up’ only to find that their ‘one and only’ existed solely in their imaginations, and worse yet, that their previous beloveds where actually their real partners for life. I didn’t want to leave the frying pan and enter into the fire and when we are dealing with life choices, we have to understand one major thing. That there are no mulligans, no do-overs, we have one shot and we have to make it a good one. Life doesn’t follow our favorite fictional stories and I didn’t want to end up like some of those sad tales of woe who divorced too fast without thinking. My wife was willing to work on our issues, at the time it seemed that we just wouldn’t be able to get a breakthrough, yet was I willing to leave someone who was willing to put the effort in and try again?

The overarching reason however, was this; that even though my step kids aren’t biologically mine, I would be changing their worlds in one of the most drastic ways possible. They had no say in my choice, no voice, no option and yet their lives, their whole worlds would change in every possible way imaginable if I decided that I was going to leave and start my life anew. How would this affect them and their futures? What sort of lessons would this teach them as they continued on with their lives? Years ago when I was on a cheating website (not the issues my wife and I had, I was there for reasons relating to my parent’s past), I ran into a Feminist who called herself Ironyrulz. She had said something that I will never forget about children and their parents. She had said that us parents are our children’s Gods.

Yes, you read that right. No offense to the big guy upstairs though.

That the world could be falling apart around them and so long as Daddy and Mommy are okay, then they are all right. However, the reverse of this is also true; that the world could be just fine, and if Mommy and Daddy are waging war, then they are suffering the worst for it.

Did this mean that I resigned myself to staying no matter how miserable I was?

No, and I don’t advocate that attitude of staying for the kids no matter what (although Grerp does make some very good points about staying on her blog). No, I decided that if I were going to leave, it would be on MY terms. That I would have to leave these kids with a clean conscience, and to do that I would have to know that I exhausted every possible chance to fix our marriage and that leaving was the ONLY choice which made sense. This is where Jeff’s example comes into play, that leaving my family would only make sense if by staying, the situation would become definitely worse for everyone involved. 

I decided that I would talk with my wife about my concerns and try again, I couldn’t leave thinking that there was a chance that I didn’t take or a solution that I didn’t try. I believe in Karma, and I didn’t want the Karma of leaving children to a broken home and a wife who was willing but maybe needed a little more time on my conscience. So, Mrs. Omni and I open some more dialogue and guess what happened? Things are better than ever and improving all the time. We have our ups and downs, and I don’t want you to think that I’m Super-Step or Heroic Hubby, not at all. Just a regular guy doing the best he can with what he knows and trying to learn more as time goes on.

What I think Grerp explains thoroughly is the lack of effort made by both men and women (more women though, Eat Pray Love anyone?)  in this day and age. That ‘happiness’ trumps everything and that marriage is supposed to resemble fiction, always sunny with no clouds or bumps in the road to make us grumble at any time. This is simply unrealistic, and I think causes much more damage to the institution as a whole and therefore society as well. My sister had said one thing once, which really had me thinking years ago before I even met my wife. She said “Too may people are looking at marriage as something they can take from as opposed to something they should put into.”

Wise words, which I wish more people in this day and age, saw the merit in.

Am I saying that people should be hooked up in a miserable marriage like oxen yoked to a cart. I must say that I disagree with that, but I will also say that if things are indeed miserable, before divorce is chosen, are the people involved willing to do EVERYTHING possible to fix the situation? And even before getting married, are the two people involved fully understanding the situation they are entering? I’m willing to bet that if more people where willing to explore every possible opportunity before pushing the red button that the amount of divorces we see in society would decrease.

Omnipitron.